my dear children,
Two letters written by Mary
Eliza Godfrey nee Giles (born 1795 in Tavistock (?) who married Joseph James
Godfrey, Surgeon, of Liverpool 4th January 1821 in
The first letter recalls her grandparents and early
life in Tavistock with a brief mention of
My Dear Children,
As you requested, I will endeavour to give what
I can remember of my father and parental grandfathers. My paternal grandfather
died many years before my birth. He held an estate in Totnes,
My mother did study very
diligently, and received a certificate. She then returned to Tavistock with my
father, and on the 14th January, 1795, I was born, and my father returned to
finish his studies at the hospital, and-x obtained certificates in surgery and
medicine. He then returned to
Tavistock
they heard, that my father was very reluctantly compelled to return with them.
On his passage home he studied the Bible
prayerfully and carefully on the subject of believers' baptism, and by the
clear teaching he was convinced. He had never been baptized, and although he
had been sent out to teach the Gospel to the heathen, he had not learned nor
obeyed his Master's commands, and was greatly distressed and perplexed. He
heard that at Portsea- now Devonport - there was a Baptist Minister, Mr. Isaiah
Burt. To him he went, and was baptized by him. This so grieved my mother, she
being a member of the Church of England, that, thinking him ' to be dead to the
Church, she put on deep mourning the day .he was immersed. She then with
earnest prayer read the New Testament and the Church Catechism, to strengthen
her views on infant baptism. When she came to the question, What, is required of
those to be baptized? the scales suddenly fell from
her eyes. She saw she had been in error and freely confessed it to my father,
which gave him great joy.
At this time there was a small church at
The Duke of Bedford was a benefactor to
Tavistock, and made many improvements. He caused the church bells to ring the
tune called "Old York.” But it was composed for the words:
"old
Nobbe is dead, that good old man,
That fired us in the Tower;
As we began, so we'll keep on,
From eight to
twelve and four."
Very strict church discipline at this time was
observed by the Bishop, Rector and Corporation. A first cousin of my mother's,
was misnamed a justice of peace. His sacred office on the Lord's Day at the
time of Divine Service, was to drive round the streets and turn back any who
were going to Dissenting places of worship. My nurse, who was a good woman, was
once taking me to one of these forbidden places. We were stopped and ordered to
turn back; we did return, and went through another street, and heard the Gospel
preached. The next and final event that I could remember at Tavistock before
leaving, is my dear grandfather coming" to ~ tell me, with great joy, that
I had a little brother, which the doctor had taken to my mother on the 30th
December. The 31st was her birthday, and her first-born son was intended to be
a birthday present, and so he was; and she was delighted, and now wished her
first-born daughter to go home and not return again at present; so with great
joy -yet with bitter sorrow at leaving my grandparents, my aunts, dear nurse,
and loving friends - I left Tavistock. My dear grandfather died soon after he
had taken me home.
The preceding papers give a short account of my
childhood's days at Tavistock, where I left at the end of December, 1798, just
before my fourth birthday, 14th January, 1799. Being left with middle-aged
persons, not trained in a nursery with other children, gave me delight to
listen to the conversation of intelligent persons; and, being the only
grandchild in my grandparents' family, they indulged me by answering my
childish questions and explaining what they thought I might remember to repeat
to my parents at home; and the
Interrogations of my dear father and mother enabled me to retain in my memory
the various incidents of my little life, and the ardent love I felt for my dear
grandparents, aunts, dear nurse, and other friends, gave me great pleasure to
answer their questions, and now, though it has been an effort to write the
papers, it has brought back dear bygone days which the occurrences of daily
life prevent recurring.
My Dear Children,
In compliance with your request, I will
endeavour to write a few incidents in my early life, after my final return home
to remain with my parents at
When first I returned home at Dartmouth it was a
great joy to me to have my little brother put into my arms, and was told by my
mother that when he was a little older he was to be under my care to teach him
to walk, talk, and read; so I must go to school first and team to teach him.
This made me feel myself a great girl, having a sister fourteen months younger
than myself, and a baby brother.
At this time (1799)
One incident I will mention which, but for its
great sin, would be ludicrous. The baptistery had to be filled at that time by
pails of water fetched from a conduit about five minutes' walk up a steep hill
to the Chapel. This was done most cheerfully by good men, members of the
Church, who I can fancy in my mind's eye I see now, for I enjoyed watching them
from a window. My father's house was just above the Chapel at this time; this
house had been built for him by the Church. So we had removed into it, and
could see these good men, with a large hoop and a pail each side, toiling up
the hill and looking so cheerful and happy; but as they went up the aisle they
spilt the water. This was told to a magistrate, who sent his son on the Sunday
morning with some ducks, hoping they would quack and disturb the congregation.
This, however, it did not; the ducks were quietly driven back. The service was
performed with great solemnity; prayers were earnestly offered up for their
enemies, and many persons went to the Chapel to see what kind of persons the
dippers were, and many were converted and joined the Church. My mother at this
time was much engaged with the Church and her little family • my sister Sarah,
fourteen months younger than myself, William, and Mary. My brother was my
little pupil, after school-hours. I was about seven years of age - a young
teacher. He was to learn first passages of Scripture and hymns. His first hymn
was to be that sweet little hymn of one of the Rylands, I do not know which.
The hymn is an epitome of the Gospel, and agreed with my dear father's creed to
the end of his life. It may be out of print, so I will write it out
Lord, teach a little child to pray,
Thy grace
betimes impart;
And grant the Holy Spirit
may
Renew my infant heart.
A sinful creature I was born
And ever since have straved:
Without Thy mercy's aid.
But Christ can all my sins
forgive,
And wash away their stain,
And fit my soul with him to
live,
And in His kingdom
reign.
To Him let little children
come, For
He has said they may;
His bosom then shall be their
home,
Their tears hell wipe away.
For all who
early seek his face
Shall surely taste his love;
Jesus shall guide them by His
grace,
To dwell with Him
above.
My pupil being a clever
little fellow, soon learned to read and repeat many passages of Scripture, and
committed to memory
There was a service at the Chapel that evening,
and my mother left the servant to take charge of the house and wash up the tea
things, and left me to take care of the children: The servant, however, chose
to alter this command, and said she would take the children as she wanted to
speak to a young man at the door. So off she went, taking the little pets with her
and their presents to show the young man. William ran to the new ground quickly
to show his book to a schoolfellow who was going there sail a boat which has
been given him. They went to the slip It was high
water and high wind; a heavy wave caught the boat. My brother tried to save it,
and dropped his book, and in trying to pick it up, another wave dashed drew him
into the water. The other little fellow ran off to tell me. Away I ran to the
quay, and saw the peak of his cap above the water, and a boatman putting a
boathook to try to save him. He said, "He is too far gone, and I cannot
swim" I said, "Will you hold the hook, and let me jump in?" He
said, "That's right: grasp it tight, and I will
pull you to the slip." It was a few yards from it, so fearlessly I jumped
In, sank once, rose, held the hook, took hold of the pinafore, and drew him out
unconscious but alive. We were taken home just as my mother returned from
chapel. She was much alarmed but her son was soon restored, to her great joy,
and I was sent to bed, had some elderberry wine and water sent to me, and slept
soundly.
;
My father had gone to see Mr. Smith off by the
stage coach. In the morning William was rather languid, and in deep sorrow for
the loss of his book. We were both down to breakfast and told by my father that
we were both naughty children -I for giving up the children to the servant, and
William for running away. But having been punished by being sent to bed, we
were only to promise never to do so any more. The servant was dismissed. At low
water the book was found, much soiled, but readable. My dear parents, though
strict in discipline, were very Indulgent, and gave us
enjoyable and innocent pleasure. My father and the deacons of the Church had
several mission stations; as it would not be called, then called preaching
stations, for which they kept a pretty boat, and called it "The United
Brethren," and as there were plenty of fish in the Dart, and no steamers to drive them away, they caught fish on
their way, and supplied their families with fine fish when the weather was
fair. They also took their wives occasionally, and left them on the other side
of the river. This gave my mother an opportunity of taking her family. This was
a great treat to us. We took our basket prepared for all we required, landed on
a lovely .pot, sheltered by rocks, on which were goats skipping about, gathered
wood to boil the kettle, and sat down to tea. After tea we gathered a large
basket of periwinkles, took them home to boil for breakfast, and gave some to
our friends who had no boat About six o'clock the boat called for us, and we
went home greatly invigorated and delighted. My dear parents had much to talk
over about the poor benighted country people who had never heard the Gospel
before.
When my father went to these mission stations on
horseback, William or I went with him on a pillion,
and William on the horse's back behind my father. This was the custom for women
and children at that time. So, after being reproved for my faults as a nurse,
my father called me to him and told me to prepare to ride on horseback with
him, to see Mrs. Fall, at Heathfield Farm. My mother then would prepare a long
skirt to cover the feet, and I must take hold of his girdle and hold it
carefully. This gave me great joy, and at nine in the morning we started. The
high hills made me timid, and the narrow lanes brought us frequently in contact
with the bramble bushes, but the hedges were gorgeous with wild flowers, and
the wild strawberries looked so inviting as to make my mouth water. So on we
rode jig-jog until we stopped at the house of a dear good man, who was waiting
at his door to welcome us. His first salutation to my father was, "Come
in, thou blessed of the Lord;" and my father said, "Will you allow me
to introduce my daughter to you, Mr. Varwell?" He shook me heartily by the
hand and took me in. The dinner was ready for us, and we were ready to cat it
Alter dinner we went into another room. A large Bible lay "open before us,
and a few friends waiting to hear it expounded, who appeared greatly pleased,
and requested the visit to be repeated. After two hours we started for
Heathfield Farm, and found Mr, and Mrs. Fall waiting to receive us. They gave us a hearty
greeting and took us in for tea, for
which our ride had given us keen appetites. After tea we were taken to a bam,
where Mr. Fall's workpeople were assembled to hear my father preach. They were
very attentive. A little shepherd boy was there, with his sweet voice, and the
hymns were remarkably well sung. They appeared very attentive to the sermon,
which they said they had greatly enjoyed.The little shepherd boy was educated
by his master, and sent by Church to be educated for the ministry, and became
an earnest of the Gospel. The next morning, after breakfast, Mr. Fall had a
horse and pony made ready for his daughter to take me, for a ride in the
fields, where paths bad been prepared for his family to ride. So I was lifted
on a pony. Never having been on even a pony's back alone, I was rather timid at
first, yet enjoyed it much. When we came to a second field on the other side of
the hedge we heard a very sweet boy's voice singing a hymn in our Old
Selection, beginning with the words "Jesus my all to heaven is gone."
Sarah Fall said: "That is our little shepherd boy. He has gone to the bam
and heard Mr. Giles preach, and I hope he is converted." That is the
little shepherd boy above mentioned.
My father spent the remainder of the day in
visiting the sick and conversing with those who were under strong conviction of
sin. I spent a pleasant afternoon with the family in reading, work, and sacred
vocal music, and listened to my father's account of what he had seen and heard.
The next morning we returned home and told my mother what enjoyment we had
experienced, which made her rejoice also. My father had three other Stations •
Slapton Sands, Ditsom, and Brixham. The latter was formed into a Church, and
dear, good Mr. Daniel, afterwards of
Although
To this Hermitage we were taken three times in
the summer the first time when Dolly Chatter made her gooseberry pies
from the early berry, which she sold at sixpence per dozen. So one
morning, to our great Joys my dear mother said
"You have been good children, so next week your father and I intend to
take you to the Hermitage." Then we were all wild wlth delight, and I went
with my mother to order the pies and some Devonshire cream, and cakes sixpence
per dozen to cut open and eat with cream. This Dolly Chatter was a very
important person in the town. In my mind's eye I can see her now. Besides
having her shop, which she opened at eleven o'clock, she was the post-woman,
and carried the letters. There was only one delivery. Her dress was unique. She
wore a neat print dress over a linsey petticoat, and a print jacket, and a
check apron tied round the waist, which formed a frill to the jacket. She wore
a black gipsy hat, which was fastened to the cushion she wore on her head,
Iwith her hair turned over it back and front Wore neat black stockings and
shoes with high heels, and short petticoats. She had a pleasing face, and was
the middle height, She had a sprightly walk, and so
she carried the letters all the year round. Now we will take Dolly to her shop
and prepare |for the Hermitage, where we went the next week with our basket. We
sat down to a hearty tea. The peacocks came down and spread out their splendid
tails. We had prepared crumbs for them. They walked round and dropped their
lovely feathers for us. The old man had a nice meal left for him. We sang a
hymn for him, which he enjoyed, and my father read a chapter out of the Bible;
after which those who were strong enough walked to the Castle about a quarter
of a mile from the lawn.
From the Castle there is a charming view of the
mouth of the Dart, on both sides of the clear blue water, in which shoals of
mackerel and other fish in it could be seen. There was much to be seen at this
end of the extensive grounds; but it was now time to return home, and call for
the party left on the lawn. They soon joined us. On our return home we were in great
glee, having had such a treat, and for good conduct This
gave me great joy; I thought If my parents were pleased God was pleased also.
This was selfrighteausness, but I was but a child, and thought as a child. This ended
one of my most happy days.
Soon
after this came a great sorrow to my parents and myself,
in the death of my little brother John at two years and
one month old, the first breach in our family one month before my brother
John Eustace was born. Now other engagements prevent my proceeding further.
-December 24th, 1883.
In the former paper I have mentioned the death
of my dear little brother. The nurse took him to the fair. The wind was very
cold in the month of March. He bought a toy watch; its hands pointed to eight
o'clock. He came home in great joy, saying, "Look, sister, Johnnie's
watch, eight o'clock," He suddenly became very ill, from inflammation of
the lungs, and was delirious from the first of the attack, and kept repeating
over and over, while be could speak, "Eight o'clock, Johnnie's
watch." These were his last words. The next night I sat up with the nurse,
as my mother was very ill. At eight o'clock in the morning he passed away. This
was my first bitter grief. Next followed the interment,
and I can remember my dear father's expression of grief as he stood by the side
of that little corpse, and sang that beautiful hymn.
"Peace 'tis the Lord
Jehovah's hand
That blasts our joys in
death
Changes the visage once so
dear,
And gathers back the breath,”
He sweetly rests until the resurrection, under
the first pew on the left side of the Little Baptist Chapel in
The next thing that I can remember in my family
worthy of notice Was the birth of my (Dear brother
John Eustace, on the 20th of April, 1805. Again another charge was given to my
dear sister and myself. Sarah was to be his head
nurse, and I was to be his teacher. My duty could only be done after school
hours, but my little pupil was anxious to learn, and did me credit. At this
time
About this time my father was invited to supply a Church at Lymington,
Hants, left vacant by the death of Mr, Stradling. There was also a branch Church,
under the pastorate of Mr. Mursel, father of Mr. James Mursell, senior,
While the arrangements for our removal were
going on, my youngest brother, Samuel, was born, 31st of October, 1809 - my
parents' last born Of eight children. The death of my
dear brother John left seven, who were all spared to have children of their
own. My youngest sister and myself are the only
survivors. The following February we left
By your loving mother
Prince's Park